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Life's Disappointments

Disappointments are natural occurrences in life and there’s no escaping them. Whilst you can’t predict them, you can build up coping mechanisms to fight off the feelings of despair or anger and turn them into a learning experience.  I bet you know one or two people who seem to live charmed lives, at least on the surface.  You might be…
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Turf War - mothers and daughters

I’ve been asked to go to my younger daughter’s place she shares with her partner to puppy-sit for a day. It will be the first time I have been in the apartment on my own and I know my fingers will be itching to rearrange the cupboards, put a load of washing in the machine and do a general tidy…
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Mothers and Daughters - friend or foe?

I’m getting tired of listening to people talk about the relationship with their mother being “toxic.”  I’ve come across enough cases and watched the dynamics between the two to understand that this is a real phenomenon but we need to stop pinning random descriptions on people or situations spewed out by the press. It’s like calling someone schizophrenic who is…
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Respect for Old Traditions

   Thinking it might be another damp Easter bank holiday, I trudged down to my local art shop to get some fresh supplies only to find that it had closed at lunchtime. Puzzled, I peered through the window in the hope that maybe the staff were going through some training or having a cheeky chocolate egg with their coffee in…
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In Praise of 80 year olds

Over the past few months I’ve been researching for a new book which focuses on the older adult. I mean in their late seventies and eighties because being sixty, I don’t consider myself old. It’s all relative.   My father retired aged sixty five from nursing and being on his own, three months later went back to work as a…
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LUDLOW - The Loveliest Town in England

The towne doth stand most part upon a hill, Built wall and fayre, with streates both large and wide And who that visits to walk through the towne about Shall find things therin some rare pleasant things (Thomas Churchyard 1587)     I have long been associated with Ludlow, a picturesque medieval market town in the Welsh Marches. Described by John…
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The Silent Treatment - emotional abuse and its impact

Most of us have heard the idiom, “Sent to Coventry,”  meaning to ostracise someone or act as if they don’t exist. Knowing that city well, I’ve heard a number of explanations as to the origin of this phrase, all linking back to an historical event involving war. For those who might be interested, click on this link.  http://www.coventry.org.uk/sent-to-coventry/    In…
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